Showing posts with label for mom. Show all posts
Showing posts with label for mom. Show all posts

Friday, September 19, 2008

VBAC support

The following is not meant to replace the advice from your medical doctor. :)

For anyone who doesn't know, a VBAC is a "Vaginal Birth after Cesarean".  I had a cesarean with Samuel due to fetal distress.  I had hoped for a VBAC with Sydney but unfortunately she was showing signs of distress before birth so my Dr., and the second Dr. whom I sought an opinion from, both highly recommended a repeat c-section the next morning.  They said they'd allow for labor if it occurred naturally by the next morning but if it wouldn't they felt a c-section was required to get baby girl out quickly and ensure she continued to thrive (they didn't see induction as an option for me due to increased chance of uterine rupture given the fact that I had a previous cesarean, and I agreed with them).

Anyway, a friend of mine is about to attempt a VBAC and I promised her I'd put up some great information that was sent to me by a local hospital.  This information supports VBACS, something that can be hard to find these days in our lawsuit-happy world.  

I believe that doctors and patients need to make it a priority to attempt the most natural birth possible, including VBAC attempts (provided both mother and baby are healthy).  (When I say natural, that doesn't mean I'm opposed to some help with the pain along the way ladies!  Though I admire anyone who does a medication-free delivery and I do see that as an ideal birth plan.).  Baby and Mom experience many physical benefits from a vaginal birth that I think are often overlooked.  Likewise, I think risks to cesarean (which is a major surgery), and the recovery effort from them, are often underestimated.  There are risks to cesareans too.  I had a friend who contracted an infection from her c-section and was in and out of the hospital for 3 months and was not able to care for her newborn baby.  I have another friend who had to have a transfusion after delivery.  And while my c-sections didn't have any complications, my second section was very difficult for me to recover from and my incision kept showing signs of the beginnings of potential opening (though luckily I was able to mitigate with some intense rest).

I do want to make it clear that I'm thankful the Doctors were able to help ensure I delivered 2 healthy babies, regardless of their route to the world and I do believe most often c-sections are warranted.  In the end, the goal of any birth plan should be the health of mom and baby.  My point is that for women who have had a cesarean, I want them to know that the 2nd time around they do have a choice.  They can choose VBAC.  Yes, there are risks to VBACs, and yes this risk has a small potential to be catastrophic.  However, their are catastrophic risks to any birth and the increase in catastrophic risk from VBAC is quite small.  Mostly I want people to be aware that there are risks to c-section too.  Whether you choose a repeat-C (which I also support as long as it's what the mother and her doctor feel is best for her and baby), or a VBAC, the point is:  Get informed.  Do your research.  Their are risks to both and you need to weigh the pros and cons against your own situation and beliefs.

For the power point on benefits/risks of VBACs click here.

Tuesday, May 13, 2008

my recent addiction: etsy.com

Have you heard of etsy.com? Why it's the place to buy and sell all things home-made! It's where to shop for the person that has everything! I could get sucked into this site for hours browsing all the cool things out there. Luckily they have search tools to help you find gifts for babies, weddings, Father's Day, etc.

Check out my new diaper bag I found on etsy!! I had this custom made from The Funky Bag Lady.



I still love my Lands' End back-pack for all-day trips with the kids (though the back pack appears to be no longer available for sale???!).  Anyway, I get tired of carrying around such a big bag and I wanted something that I could just throw some diapers in and a spare change of clothes for Sydney.  The bag from The Funky Bag Lady seems perfect!  It's a good size, has several pockets, and is darn cute!  Once again etsy.com comes through for me!

Here are some other favorite things I've browsed recently:

Don't say I didn't warn you!  It's addictive!  Have fun!  Tricia

Sunday, May 11, 2008

Happy Mother's Day!

HAPPY MOTHER'S DAY!

What's a blog on "all things mom" without a special shout out to all the Moms out there on Mother's Day!  Anyone out there?  Hellloooooooooo?  Helllooooo!  Well, my blog is so new I have a feeling this shout out will go mostly unheard.  But I'll be sure to inform my own Mother of it.  And what a special Mom she is!  As a single Mom she raised me and my 2 brothers into successful and loving adults (excuse the lack of modesty here!).  She somehow found a way to get us anything we could ever need and had a way of doing it without us having a clue how hard money was to come by.  She was so busy with work to provide for us yet she always managed to come to every game, event, etc. that we were involved in.  Basically, she was there for us - always has been, even today!  THANKS MOM!  I love you!  WE love you!

I feel very fortunate to know many incredible Moms out there.  From single Moms to stay-at-home Moms to Moms that work outside the home as assistants, corporate executives, project managers, analysts (yours truly), teachers, nurses, doctors, dance instructors, sales professionals and Airforce pilots, to name a few.  It's incredible what Moms can do and I'm fortunate to be surrounded by amazing Mothers.

I didn't realize until recently how little recognition Mothers get for doing the hardest job on Earth!  When I've worked outside the home I think I've thrived on the recognition I get via that job - whether it be through a coworker compliment, a nice review, or even a promotion!  As I'm currently a stay at home Mom I no longer get formal reviews.  It's easy to feel invisible and under-appreciated some days with spit up running down my shirt and screaming kids next to me.  After-all, a child is a lifelong project - it's not like a corporate job where I can feel good about a job well done when a project is complete.  So I am trying to feel good about the "baby steps" of success I have along the way as a Mom and it doesn't take long to get a sweet smile from my baby and a big hug combined with a "you so lucky!" from my 2 year old.  I guess that's their way of giving me positive feedback and I relish those moments.

Thanks to my husband, this Mother's Day has been very nice and I think I got the "review" I've been looking for in the form of flowers, breakfast and a card from the kids!  My own Mom was here last night and she had my son record "Happy Mother's Day" in a card, which I'll cherish forever!  What a special day!  I hope you enjoy your day too!